The Jumping Off Point

Friends Dating Friends of Friends

You would want to ask yourself is it possible? Is it ethical? Is it safe? Is it smart?!

There is no real answer to those questions without having a counter-argument for the opposite outcome. I’ve had friends date my friends and flourish; I’ve seen friends date friends of friends and watched them crash and burn in fantastic, tragic messes. Truly, the actual question that must be asked is: how strong can an attraction be before the consequences outweigh the benefit of potential? How strong would that connection need to be before you realize you can no longer stand simply savoring simple friendship and overstepping the point of no return?

My theory is that people are drawn to each other nonetheless. Despite the warnings and intuitions, we find ourselves fantasizing about MORE! We want to be with someone physically, we find no solace in simply being near or around or in the company of; we must taste them. When that desire becomes too strong, the friendship is over. Even if we ignore those feelings, they never withdraw, they never subside. When the seed of infatuation is sewn, the fruits of friendship are tarnished. You have no choice besides stepping away for good or jumping in head first.

My final thought, how else do we build meaningful relationships than to meet people and how else, besides online ‘blind date’ sites or iphone apps, are we able to meet than through work or through mutual friends? Trust me when I say, you don’t want to date at work… that’s a whole different beast.